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Your questions: Is the bartender into me? Should I date someone my bro likes?

So I did a spontaneous show tonight, which I’m calling an ARIYNBF bonus show, and it was really fun! It was probably more true to the actual experience of hanging out with your new best friend than Wednesday’s shows in that it was just you guys and me, talking about stuff.

A couple things came up which I’m still thinking about: Erratech wanted to know how best to ask our a bartender he’s taken a liking to. He claims making “sexy eyes” are her is not working for him. It sounds as if she’s making some indication of being maybe sorta interested but then everyone was pointing out that bartenders are paid to be friendly. Also, to pour drinks. Also, he ate a calamari salad, which has nothing to do with this except I fear calamari and also octopus. What advice would you have given him? Also Leo wanted to know whether he should go for a girl that he and his brother both like. He is 16 and his brother is 15. I told him it might not be worth it to do something that would upset his brother but many of my viewers disagreed. What do you think?I can’t wait to find out what happens in both cases!

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16 Responses to Your questions: Is the bartender into me? Should I date someone my bro likes?

  1. liveforthesun April 19, 2010 at 7:30 pm #

    Bartenders are always getting hit on, it’s a drag. He should try to make friendly, not flirty conversation when business is slow to get to know her better. If he really thinks they click, be direct and ask her out. Not being a drunk a-hole should be a given.

  2. Jeff April 19, 2010 at 7:32 pm #

    Fried calamari is great.

    Anyway, I think the guy should talk to the bartender, instead of making “sexy eyes” — which I looked up on Wikipedia, because I don’t know what that is. Just make sure she’s not busy serving a lot of people.

    Do you have a show every Monday, or was this a special occasion?

  3. Jesus Novoa April 19, 2010 at 7:33 pm #

    Talking to the bartender like a human being might help. Try to make an actual connection than just “sexy eyes”. “Sexy eyes” sounds like something you’d do in a club to someone you want to take a quick trip to the bathroom with(if you know what I mean). If you actually like the chick, then, talk to her like any other woman you like. Sooner or later you would find out what time she has free and see if she’s interested in getting together either after her shift or a day she’s off.

  4. Alison Rosen April 19, 2010 at 7:40 pm #

    Yeah, no one loves a drunk a-hole!

  5. David_ma April 19, 2010 at 8:17 pm #

    I was there for these questions! I said for him to go for it but I guess it depends on how much Leo’s brother likes this girl.

  6. applenwo April 19, 2010 at 8:22 pm #

    OK, as for Erratech , yes bartender chics will play “the game” in which to keep your butt planted as to buy more drinks. I know my sister was a bartender she did it all the time. But she did date some guys from her work so you never know. So my advice ask her out. Tell her if she doesnt go out with you you’ll burn Utica to the ground. As for the brothers only a hotdog eating contest could solve this. Its not actually how much you eat rather it is who enjoys a weiner in the mouth more than the other. the one who does is clearly “iffy” about being with girls and therefore is the loser. I hope this helps.

  7. DjWeideman April 19, 2010 at 8:52 pm #

    Erretech should talk to her and just keep it light until he gets a better feeling that she’s actually interested in him. However, in the future, I’d advise against eating the calamari salad before he speaks to her. Just a tip.

  8. Jesus Novoa April 20, 2010 at 3:33 am #

    Talking to the bartender like a human being might help. Try to make an actual connection than just “sexy eyes”. “Sexy eyes” sounds like something you'd do in a club to someone you want to take a quick trip to the bathroom with(if you know what I mean). If you actually like the chick, then, talk to her like any other woman you like. Sooner or later you would find out what time she has free and see if she's interested in getting together either after her shift or a day she's off.

  9. alisonrosen April 20, 2010 at 3:40 am #

    Yeah, no one loves a drunk a-hole!

  10. David_ma April 20, 2010 at 4:17 am #

    I was there for these questions! I said for him to go for it but I guess it depends on how much Leo's brother likes this girl.

  11. applenwo April 20, 2010 at 4:22 am #

    OK, as for Erratech , yes bartender chics will play “the game” in which to keep your butt planted as to buy more drinks. I know my sister was a bartender she did it all the time. But she did date some guys from her work so you never know. So my advice ask her out. Tell her if she doesnt go out with you you'll burn Utica to the ground. As for the brothers only a hotdog eating contest could solve this. Its not actually how much you eat rather it is who enjoys a weiner in the mouth more than the other. the one who does is clearly “iffy” about being with girls and therefore is the loser. I hope this helps.

  12. David Weideman April 20, 2010 at 4:52 am #

    Erretech should talk to her and just keep it light until he gets a better feeling that she's actually interested in him. However, in the future, I'd advise against eating the calamari salad before he speaks to her. Just a tip.

  13. zebatlas April 21, 2010 at 1:30 am #

    I once dated a bartender in Eugene, Or with hazel eyes, auburn hair, and a willowy frame. In spite of her ladylike physique, she possessed an atypical penchant for manly pursuits like motorcycles, tattoos, hunting and outdoor sports. In fact she once kicked my ass in Indian wrestling. One of my favorite memories with her was when my Aerostar broke down in the middle of the road congested with busy traffic (still embarrassing to this day) . Since I didn’t know anything about spark plugs and radiators, I was totally clueless to what I had to do in the situation. Luckily her working place was at close proximity to the location where I was left stranded and the time it transpired was about the same time her shift was over. She found me there irresolute with myself and gave me a lift on her V8 diesel and called her brother who so happened to be an owner of the nearest road service operator. It was a long afternoon that would have been longer if it weren’t for her valuable company. I wonder if any of you other followers who had girlfriends can beat that.

  14. aNonymous April 21, 2010 at 1:36 am #

    “I’m allergic to alcohol but somehow I relate to this story a lot…….”

  15. zebatlas April 21, 2010 at 9:30 am #

    I once dated a bartender in Eugene, Or with hazel eyes, auburn hair, and a willowy frame. In spite of her ladylike physique, she possessed an atypical penchant for manly pursuits like motorcycles, tattoos, hunting and outdoor sports. In fact she once kicked my ass in Indian wrestling. One of my favorite memories with her was when my Aerostar broke down in the middle of the road congested with busy traffic (still embarrassing to this day) . Since I didn't know anything about spark plugs and radiators, I was totally clueless to what I had to do in the situation. Luckily her working place was at close proximity to the location where I was left stranded and the time it transpired was about the same time her shift was over. She found me there irresolute with myself and gave me a lift on her V8 diesel and called her brother who so happened to be an owner of the nearest road service operator. It was a long afternoon that would have been longer if it weren't for her valuable company. I wonder if any of you other followers who had girlfriends can beat that.

  16. aNonymous April 21, 2010 at 9:36 am #

    “I'm allergic to alcohol but somehow I relate to this story a lot…….”

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